Who am I?
My name is Josh Walles. I am an Engineer by training that has worked in that field for several years. I discovered, however, that doing so did not really help people directly. I was not able to see fundamental change in anyone’s life for the better. It occurred to me that this change was something I wanted to help others achieve. After much research, this idea of being a Life Coach became a focus in my life. I love the feeling of helping other people to find happiness and peace in their lives and I want to do that as much as I can.
I am a married father of 2. My family is one of the most important things in the world to me. The other is my faith. I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (the Mormons). I am a firm believer that the Savior’s plan was not only that we would be able to return to Him and be happy in the next life, but that we can be happy, right now in this one. The way to do that is to understand and live by eternal truth. Many of these are codified in scripture, and some can be found in other sources. Some sources explain particular concepts better than others and I believe that truth is where you find it. I have been influenced in my search for truth by my faith, by science, by other faiths (particularly Buddhism), and other societies. I like to think that this makes for a much more balanced approach, although I will readily admit that I lean more heavily toward faith-based mindsets rather than purely cognitive ones.
What is a Life Coach?
A Life Coach is someone who helps another person reach a personal goal through training, understanding, and accountability. Think of it in terms of sports. Athletes have coaches throughout their entire career. What do these coaches do? Realistically, once a player has played for a while, they know the game, don’t they? If that’s true, then why do they still have coaches?
A coach is essentially an personal facilitator. He is an impartial observer, who looks at the “player’s game” as it were and tries to find methods to improve that the “player” may not have thought about. Should additional skills need to be introduced, the coach teaches the skills and develops a framework for the “player” to practice and develop the new skill set. The coach holds the “player” accountable for their practice, answers questions, critiques, and encourages as needed.
A Life Coach does very much this same set of activities except that the subject is not playing a sport, they are living their life. Everyone wants to have an easier time navigating the problems inherent in being a part of society and the human race. Just as the old saying is still true, “Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it”, a coach is the teller of history. The coach’s job is to help the client understand and apply history to their lives so that they do not have to repeat past mistakes that they could learn about from others’ experiences. In essence, the coach provides Cliff Notes for Life so that the client can focus on the important things rather than get bogged down in figuring out how to extricate themselves from problems that someone else has already found a way to surmount. Why reinvent the wheel if you don’t have to? The old adage, “Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, feed him for a lifetime” applies very well to Life Coaching. We are teachers of fishermen.
What doesn’t a Life Coach do?
A life coach is NOT a psychiatrist, a therapist, or a taskmaster. We are not qualified to help with mental help issues, addiction, abuse, etc… I will, however, help you to find such resources in your area if you would like assistance and refer you to them. Aside from having the goal to help you find more happiness and joy in your life, I am also not here to provide you with goals for you to achieve. The goals for your life need to come from you. My role is helping you define your values, helping you understand where you feel like you are weak in your life, helping you formulate your own achievable goals, and then helping you obtain and practice the skill set necessary to achieve them. Along that path, we may find areas outside of my expertise that you require additional resources for. That’s OK. I’ll help you find them, but I will not attempt to substitute for them. That only does you a disservice.
What is the process of working with a Life Coach?
Prior to our first conversation, I will send you a fairly intensive questionnaire that I will ask you to fill out as completely as possible. This will give me an idea of what areas of your life you need help and how I can best help you. After that, we will set up a time for a phone call where we discuss your situation and come to a determination of whether or not I can help you. If not, I will try to give you alternative options of resources that you can use to satisfy your needs. If I can, we will set up a program together that will help you to accomplish the things that you need done. Ideally, this does not take more than 6 months (skill development and accomplishment should be a finite, measurable process). After that, we go our separate ways, hopefully you with a new set of skills that not only allowed you to accomplish something during our time together, but will serve you in many varied capacities over the course of the rest of your life to address opportunities that arise.